Diaries of a Boss Babe

#44 Courtney Boyer: Anonymous Questions: P*rn, Emotional Abuse, Dating...

We’re kicking off this season of Diaries of a Boss Babe with an unfiltered Q&A on love, sex, and everything in between. Relationship & Sexuality Expert Courtney Boyer joins me for “Ask Courtney Anything,” where we dive into listener-submitted questions that are as real as they are raw.
From porn, dating apps, and building confidence… to fantasies you may not admit out loud (👀 hello cuckolding curiosity), this episode is equal parts raw, hilarious, and deeply relatable.
But this isn’t just about shock value. We peel back the layers on:
Why vulnerability is the sexiest currency in a relationship
Companionship vs. true partnership (yes, there’s a difference)
What it really takes to rebuild trust after betrayal
The impact of emotional abuse and why self-worth is the foundation of love
How porn can shake (or shape) trust in relationships
Why community is essential—especially for men and military families
Exploring fantasies & boundaries without breaking connection
Courtney brings wisdom, wit, and straight-talk that makes the hard stuff feel a little lighter and a lot more doable. Whether you’re single, dating, or knee-deep in marriage, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, understood, and a little more open to the wild ride of love, sex, and everything in between.
💌 If you’ve ever wished you could ask a relationship expert your real questions (without blushing), this episode is your permission slip.

Cultivate #6: Getting out of the Army

Leaving the military isn’t just a career change, it’s a full-life transition that touches every part of who you are, what you do, and how you see yourself. In this powerful conversation with Luke, we explore the layered journey of military retirement, from the meticulous planning it requires to the unexpected waves of grief, identity shifts, and emotional adjustments that follow.
We talk about the paradox of wanting something deeply, dreaming about the freedom of civilian life, while also feeling sadness, disconnection, and even depression once you arrive there. We dive into how couples can navigate this change together, why community and friendships are so vital, and how routines, sleep, and exercise become anchors in a time of uncertainty.
Whether you’re approaching military retirement, supporting a spouse through it, or simply curious about the human side of major life transitions, this episode is full of raw insight, hard-earned lessons, and hope for building a fulfilling next chapter.
If you're looking for a great guide book to figure out what you want to be "when you grow up", here's the link to get the book, What Color is my Parachute.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why planning for military retirement should start years before leaving service
The surprising emotional toll of identity loss and community shifts
How to navigate the paradox of excitement and grief during transition
The role of self-awareness in managing stress, irritability, and change
Practical ways couples can plan and adapt together 
How sleep, exercise, and routines help create a new sense of normal
Why building (or rebuilding) community is essential for emotional health
The importance of giving yourself—and others—time and grace in the process
This is a conversation about change, courage, and the reality that two things can be true: you can be ready to move forward and still mourn what you’ve left behind.

#43 April Martini - Codependency, Infidelity, and Finally Telling the Truth

What happens when you stop pretending, get radically honest, and finally take ownership of your story—mess and all? This week, I’m joined by the powerful and unfiltered April Martini, life coach, speaker, and creator of The Martini Method, for a deeply real and refreshing conversation you do not want to miss.
April gets vulnerable about her journey from the structured world of the military and corporate America to the chaos (and clarity) that came through divorce, motherhood, and facing childhood trauma head-on. We talk about codependency, infidelity, and the dark corners of life we don’t always like to shine a light on—because healing isn't linear and growth isn't always pretty.
From postpartum depression to the unexpected relief of divorce, navigating blended families, and finding herself as a single woman again, April shares how she turned painful life transitions into the foundation for her life’s work. With raw insight and zero shame, she introduces The Martini Method—her practical, honest approach to self-discovery, boundary-setting, and lasting change.
This isn’t your typical “fix your life” chat. It’s a beautifully messy, truth-filled reminder that you are not broken, you’re becoming.
💥 In this episode, we dive into:
Why healing is a practice, not a destination
How childhood trauma shows up in adult relationships
Codependency: what it really looks like (and how to break the cycle)
The surprising freedom that can come after divorce
Mental health in the military—what’s missing and what we need
Motherhood, identity loss, and reclaiming your sense of self
Why social media messes with our heads
The power of boundaries and support systems
And of course… the Martini Method for reclaiming your life
✨ Real. Raw. Refreshing. This episode is packed with truth bombs and tender moments that will have you nodding, reflecting, and maybe even finally letting yourself off the hook. Don’t just listen—experience this one.

#42 Casey Belitz - Midlife Awakenings, Raising Kids in a Digital Age, & Scaling Businesses

What happens when you reunite with a high school friend after 20 years and hit record? You get a wild ride of deep thoughts, belly laughs, and "same, girl, SAME" moments you didn’t know you needed.
Casey Belitz (formerly Casey Rector — yes, from La Costa Canyon, Class of 2005, Go Mavs!) joins me for a reunion episode that goes everywhere from childhood attachment styles to running businesses, parenting in a tech-fueled world, and the absolute chaos of trying to raise good humans while not losing ourselves in the process. Casey owns The Watering Haul and The Hug Button and is a Business Teacher at our alma mater, whoop whoop!
This convo is equal parts heart, humor, healing, and “holy sh*t, I thought it was just me.”
We talk about:
How learning actually changes your brain
The magic of secure attachment (and how it echoes into adulthood)
Delegating in business so you’re not drowning in to-dos
Why empathy isn’t just a soft skill, it’s the real power move
Raising independent kids in a co-dependent digital age
Slowing down, finding your flow, and redefining success
The beauty (and struggle) of authenticity on social media
And why we all need a little more humor, community, and compassion
Whether you're a mom, a business owner, a teacher, a dreamer, or just a human trying to figure it all out, this episode will hit home.
🎧 Tune in for the reunion you didn’t know you needed and leave feeling seen, heard, and inspired to lead with heart and live on purpose.

#41 Courtney Boyer: Pleasure in Paris

What happens when you drop a group of bold, brave women into the heart of Paris with nothing but intention, vulnerability, and a suitcase full of curiosity? Pure. Magic.
In this electrifying episode, we dive deep with Courtney Boyer, relationship and sexuality expert — fresh off a transformative women’s retreat in the City of Light. We’re talking pleasure, power, soul-level breakthroughs, and the kind of sisterhood that changes everything.
This is not your average self-care chat. This is about women waking up... to their desires, their bodies, their truth. We unpack what it really means to set intentions and surrender, to peel back the layers we’ve hidden behind for years and step fully into who we are. No filters. No apologies. Just raw, beautiful growth.
If you've ever felt the tug to go deeper into your pleasure, your potential, your power, this conversation will light something up inside you. From laugh-out-loud moments to goosebumps and tears, this episode is a full-body YES.

#40 Julia Young - A Fresh Start: Motherhood, Military Life & Building a Business with Heart

In this episode, I'm joined by the lovely and down-to-earth Julia Young. She's a mom of two (and one on the way!), military spouse, and the woman behind Fresh Start Sourdough. She accidentally turned her pandemic hobby into a full-blown business (oops... but in the best way).
Julia keeps it real about the ups, downs, and beautifully messy in betweens of building a business from her kitchen while chasing toddlers and packing up for yet another military move. If you've ever wondered how to grow something meaningful without sacrificing your values (or your sanity), this conversation is for you.
We talk about what it means to build a life on your own terms, the art of balancing sourdough starters with raising babies, and why finding community as a military wife is both essential and, let's be honest, kinda hard sometimes. From pandemic pregnancies to career pivots to the magic of teaching your kids through your work, Julia shares the heart behind her brand and the lessons she’s picked up along the way.
Whether you’re a military spouse, a business-minded mama, or just someone craving a fresh start (pun absolutely intended), this one’s for you.

#39: Dear Diary - A Love Letter to Life and Loss

Join me in the space in between for a compilation of journal entries over the last six weeks. Just a heads up, it's emotional, filled with love, grief, realization and affirmation. Thank you for being here with me, sitting with me, sharing in what is in fact, life. 

Cultivate #5: Team Awesome: Our Parenting Playbook

What do you get when you mix strict tech rules, solid bedtimes, intentional parenting, and two people who still really like each other after 14 years? Team Awesome, baby. And yes—we named ourselves. On purpose.
Grab your coffee and join us for a long morning therapy shesh, Luke and I sit to get real about our parenting journey. With two kids now 14 and 12, we reflect on the wins, the wobbles, and the wildly intentional decisions that have shaped our family life—from saying no to social media and yes to physical labor, to raising kids who are actually enjoyable to be around (most of the time).
We break down how our parenting style evolved through early childhood chaos, unexpected trauma, and that wild decision to start a school. You’ll hear how our shared values around discipline, independence, and community helped us build a home where rules are clear, money isn’t a mystery, and kids learn to do hard things.
Whether you're a fellow no-screens-until-you've-fed-the-chickens parent, or just looking for a fresh take on modern family life, this episode serves up honesty, strategy, and plenty of quirky Gerhardt charm. You’ll laugh, you’ll nod in solidarity, and you might start calling your family a team, too.
Topics We Tackle:
Parenting without social media (and surviving)
Why bedtimes are sacred in the Gerhardt house
Financial literacy for kids (hello, Bank of Dad)
Balancing work ethic with childhood joy
The dynamic of raising boys in today’s world
Curating your child’s influences (and your own)
Building a parenting legacy grounded in values, not trends
Team Awesome Tip of the Week:Rules don’t ruin fun—they create the space for the right kind of fun.
Listen in for laughs, lessons, and a refreshingly honest conversation between two partners in life and parenting crime. We don’t have it all figured out, but we’ve definitely got a plan.
🎧 Tune in now and get inspired to parent with more purpose (and maybe a little more cheek).

# 38: Cori Myka: Calm, Confidence & the Courage to Swim

In this deeply soulful and inspiring episode, I sit down with Cori Myka, founder of Calm Within Adult Swim—a woman who embodies the perfect blend of life coach and swim coach. Cori brings an extraordinary depth of wisdom to what, on the surface, may seem like a simple act: learning to swim. But as you'll hear, it’s so much more than that.
We dive into the emotional and mental journey of adult swim learners, exploring how fear, trauma, and our relationship with safety often come to the surface in the water. Cori’s approach is both gentle and transformative. She shares how swimming becomes a metaphor for life—one that calls us to slow down, tune in, and move forward with patience, practice, and profound self-trust.
This conversation is about more than swimming. It’s about embracing the seasons of our lives—both literal and emotional. It’s about meeting ourselves in the water, letting go of judgment, and inviting in curiosity, playfulness, and peace. Whether you're terrified of water or navigating your own version of deep emotional waters, this episode will touch your heart and offer the kind of gentle insight we all need more of.
What we talk about in this episode:
Why learning to swim as an adult is 80% mental and 20% physical
The importance of individual stories around fear and safety
How seasonal shifts impact our energy, mindset, and motivation
The difference between teaching children and adults—and why connection matters most
The power of group classes and shared vulnerability
Building trust in ourselves, one small step at a time
Using curiosity and playfulness as tools for adult learning
How the water mirrors our inner emotional world
Mindfulness, patience, and the slow, beautiful journey of growth
Why love, connection, and self-awareness are at the heart of any transformation
Cori’s gentle yet powerful perspective reminds us that we are always capable of learning something new, and that the relationship we build with ourselves along the way is the true victory.
Whether you’ve always wanted to learn to swim or you’re simply seeking more calm and confidence in your life, this episode is a warm invitation to begin—right where you are.

#37 Karen Geiger: The Power of the Pen — Journaling, Midlife, and the Stories We Tell Ourselves

Get ready for one of the most soul-nourishing conversations we’ve had on Diaries of a Boss Babe! In this episode, I sit down with the ever-vibrant Karen Geiger — a speech-language pathologist, journal writing teacher, writing coach, mama to two grown boys, and a woman radiating authenticity and joy.
Together, we dive deep into the transformative power of journaling, the complexities of midlife and menopause, and what it means to reclaim your story in a world that’s constantly trying to write it for you. With grace, humor, and wisdom, Karen shares how therapeutic writing can become a lighthouse during life's foggiest seasons — especially when navigating identity shifts, motherhood transitions, and the emotional waves of aging.
✨ This episode is a gentle nudge to pause, reflect, and write it all down.
💡 What We Talk About:
Using journaling as a therapeutic practice during menopause and midlife
How language shapes our self-image and personal narrative
The role of family support in navigating big life transitions
Gratitude journaling and its powerful effect on mindset and presence
The impact of digital journaling and how it’s evolving
What it means to surrender and trust the unfolding of your life
Why authenticity and community are non-negotiables for personal growth
How fear can be a doorway to self-discovery
Tools and tips for starting (or restarting) your journaling practice
💭 Favorite Takeaways:
Midlife is a season, not a crisis.
Gratitude can exist in the same breath as grief and joy.
Writing is more than reflection — it’s a mental workout.
The stories we tell ourselves can either limit or liberate us.
You are the protagonist of your own life — own it.
This episode is a love letter to self-expression, to owning your evolution, and to honoring the messy, magical in-between moments. Whether you’re a lifelong journaler or just starting out, Karen’s insights will light a spark in you to pick up the pen and begin again.
📓 Grab your favorite notebook and let’s go.
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